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A relationship is a great involvement when it’s healthy and everyone deserves to be in one. Have you ever wondered why some people never stop talking about how amazing their relationships are but some find it difficult to have the best of the commitment they have made to be with the girl they love? If you must know, keeping your relationship great will take more than just a feeling. You should be prepared to put in a lot of effort and focus.
Well, “if you want it, you can have it”. Taking a proactive step towards achieving what you desire offers successful outcomes. You want to maintain a good relationship with her, try to observe the following helpful tips:
1. Spend more quality time with her
There isn’t any doubt about how essential it is to spend quality time with your girl. You should know that doing such will help strengthen your bond, keep the love you have for each other alive, and make the relationship experience healthy growth. A lot of people do make the mistake of letting the other things they do meddle with their relationship ( it may be a job sometimes). However, irrespective of how busy you may be try to share some quality time with her. You guys can go on a weekend getaway, try a movie marathon, play a game together, cook together, stay fit together, try new things together, adopt a pet together, and talk about random stuff. With this, you’re on the appropriate track to keeping a great relationship.
2. Make her feel appreciated
Don’t ever underestimate the power of being grateful or thankful. Girls love it when you acknowledge their actions and value their efforts. To maintain a good relationship, you should try to genuinely appreciate her for who she is and for what she does. Most girls will go as far as making an ordinary day special and ask nothing in return but only the attention and time of their partner. To make the flame burn more, you should try to appreciate her in different ways. Ensure you tell her ” Thank you”; show her how happy you are; try to recognize every little detail of her effort; celebrate her every success, no matter how small they are; give her your time and your undivided attention; try to be her number one fan/ cheerleader; and so on.
3. Listen to her
As a man, it’s important to take listening to your girlfriend seriously. Give her your undivided attention and understand her feelings, experience, or point of view. If she needs advice, you should be prepared to give it. If she’s the type that doesn’t like to open up, try to ask questions to encourage her to do so and make clarification where needed. Make sure you’re not sarcastic so that she won’t feel that you’re insulting her intelligence. Flow along with her and understand the feeling behind her expressions and the content. Demonstrate that you understand truly her standpoint ( whether you are in support or not) and present yourself in a calm and composed manner to her
4. Support Her
Everyone has a visionary scheme. As you are looking for different ways to fulfill your dream, your girlfriend too is looking for ways to do the same. So, when you see her working towards reaching her dreams, try to encourage her. Acknowledge her effort and let her know that you are you’re happy and proud of her and her achievements. Ensure that you celebrate her success; seek ways to make her more confident when she’s struggling; make yourself available at her important events, and give her compliments.
Another means of support is by being kind to her. Every girl will appreciate it when you consistently do random nice things for them. You can help out by dealing with one thing on her weekend to-do list, get needed ingredients to prepare her favorite dish, or brings her the things she desires. To make her feel more loved, your kindness towards her is required.
5. Give her compliments
A compliment is said to be an expression of praise, congratulations, or respect. Virtually, every girl loves compliments. It will be a great mistake to see your girl right in front of you looking gorgeous and you fail to notice the stunning things on her such as her outfit, her makeup, or her new haircut. There are other things you can also compliment including her good grades, a promotion at work, or her emotional bravery. Complimenting her will make her feel special and even boost her self-esteem. Some of the things you can say to compliment her may include telling her that she looks gorgeous; that she doesn’t need makeup because she’s already naturally beautiful; that she’s adorable and looks mesmerizing; that she looks prettier than a picture; that she has the most beautiful smile in the world; that her sense of fashion is amazing; that she has a great sense of fashion; that she has such a talent for putting together the most gorgeous outfits; that she knows how to dress well; that you love how curly her hair is; and so on.
6. Treat her with respect
Your girlfriend is worthy of consideration and high regard. If you love her, you will value her as a human and as a woman. In the relationship, each party should be entitled to their opinion. When your girlfriend gives her opinions, principles, emotions, and beliefs, you have to respect them even if they are different from yours. When you treat her with respect, you are demonstrating to her that you’re open-minded and mature. Make sure that you humble yourself by being considerate to accept new things primarily because of the happiness and health of your relationship with her. You treat her with respect by meeting with her family and being courteous to them; Introducing her to your family; meeting and accepting her friends; introduce her to your friends; avoiding flirting with other girls; not bringing her to unwholesome places; avoiding being rude to her; not forcing her to do things; not being a dictator; appreciating her publicly and privately; not embarrassing her in public; not abusing her in any way; not taking her for granted.
7. Be honest
One of the greatest mistakes you can ever make in a relationship is to make your partner lose trust in you. Trust is the bedrock of a relationship; if trust is missing, the relationship will end up crashing. You shouldn’t be told that some obnoxious actions such as being unfaithful can destroy a relationship. Therefore, for you to maintain a good relationship with your girlfriend, you will need to be honest. Make her know sooner when you do something wrong. If she still holds onto your previous acts and fails to trust you, you will need to tender your sincere apology and prove to her that you’re a changed person.
8. Don’t use hurtful words with her
You can never tell— there may times you will get extremely angry. In this situation, you’re expected to try to control yourself and not say something painful that may later lead to regret. Although it may be difficult to control your emotions, remember the damage it can cause to your relationship. Instead of expressing yourself at the moment, you can just stay silent or walk away until you are calm. With this, your relationship will remain healthy.
Moreover, staying positive is important. You may have experienced something bad during the day, perhaps at your workplace, but don’t let such a bad mood rub off on your girlfriend. Avoid negative thoughts and deal with your challenge with a happy and positive attitude.
9. Let her be part of your life
Here is where many individuals miss it in their relationships. Their selfishness has blinded their eyes to see how important their partner can be when it comes to some areas of their life. In order not to fall victim to a broken relationship, you need to include your girlfriend in your decision-making. Ask her opinion, probably when you intend to spend some time with family and friends — this will make her see that you value her feelings and thoughts. You guys are supposed to be a team. You need to think together and pull each other through the hard stuff.
10. Show love to her
Ensure you don’t hide your affection. There are different ways you can show her that you love her. It can be through words, actions, or behavior. You can show your affection by sending flowers to her at her workplace or drop them at her doorstep with a short and sweet note that has romantic words written on it. This will go a long way to strengthen your relationship or make the bond between you both stronger. Besides, you can also try to prepare her favorite meal, surprise her, take her out, and look into her eyes and tell her that you love her so much.
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