DateInBedDateInBedYou are not the only couple who feel that their sex life has hit the rocks. It’s a common issue troubling all couples at some point of time in their marriage. Every couple’s sex life goes through ups and downs and hits low points. Things become boring after a time, and you start to lose interest after the initial sparks die out.
Sex should become anything but boring in life. Once you let it happen, you will start losing out on marital bliss. But there’s a lot you can do to spice up your sex life and keep it sizzling all the time. Trying new things to bring an element of playfulness into your sex life goes a long way in rekindling the lost fire.
Here are ten new things to try to spice up your sex life and excite your partner like never before.
1. Do Not Stop Dating
Sexual satisfaction dies out in a relationship because of boredom and routines. You miss the thrill and the magnetic attraction towards each other. One reason is that people stop dating and impressing each other later in a relationship or marriage and take things for granted. This makes the relationship dull, and you start to lose interest in things. An occasional outing or a movie together is not enough to keep sex on the right track.
Instead, never stop dating each other. Do not miss out on the excitement of getting ready in an impressive way to enchant your partner, getting romantic with each other, and flirting endlessly. Such things bring the passion alive and get things rolling again. Take your partner out every week, spend some cozy time with each other, travel, enjoy, or simply set up a romantic ambiance in the house with dim lights and flowers. See the passion flowing again in leaps and bounds.
2. Stop Being Repetitive
People often stop deriving satisfaction from sex because of repetitiveness. Wouldn’t you get bored of the same daily routine or the same food every day? Sex starts becoming uninteresting when you follow the same pattern every time. Watch sexually exciting stuff together and always try new things to stop everything from becoming too mundane. It should never become the bowl of milk and cornflakes you have every morning. Instead, let your sexual activities be the experimental dishes that you love to explore and often fall in love with.
Different ways of foreplay and seduction can go a long way in cutting out boredom and repetitiveness. Explore different positions, try new flavors in the bedroom, or innovate new fantasies to experiment with new sides of each other. Let it be as exciting as getting into bed for the first time with your partner.
3. Become The Dominant One
People love surprises in the bedroom. Try throwing aside your submissive side and become the dominant partner to surprise. He or she would be pleasantly shocked and enjoy the things happening in bed. If he has always been taking the initiative, turn the tables and pin him to bed, becoming the dominant one. Change the positions or try seducing him to make your partner surprised and attracted with such novelty. Be the aggressor, try the foreplay, and talk dirty to build the sexual tension and turn him or her on in the right way.
4. Chat Flirtatiously All Day
Flirting with each other is a healthy way to keep the sparks flying in a relationship. Text each other playfully during the day and enjoy some great time at night. How about sending him a picture when you dress up attractively during the day or tell her a flirtatious joke when she is taking a break at her office? Your partner would be least expecting such things during the day, and it helps to get them thinking on such lines. Staying turned on throughout the day gets things going great at night. Your relationship may be missing out at this moment on the naughty chats. Text each other dirty or be playful with your messages to tease each other till you meet at night.
5. Talk About Your Sexual Fantasies
People allow boredom to take a seat in their sex life and then complain of losing interest. They start looking for novelty outside the relationship, making things suffer more than ever. Instead, get the stone rolling again by talking about your fantasies with your partner. Do not be secretive about your desires. Open up and watch things taking a new course. Tell her whether you secretly fantasize about her in certain clothing or a specific position. Talk to him whether trying BDSM is your secret, kinky desire, or if you would love to try doing it under the stars. Such open discussions bring surprising elements to the sex life lying in the rut. It helps to generate ideas and do playful things to bring such fantasies to life.
6. Role Play
Roleplay is all about acting out all your fantasies and desires, playing someone else’s role in front of your partner. It’s a great way to induce some fun in the dull bedroom. Search the internet for role-playing ideas or come up with something of your own. Behave as different individuals to get the feel of first-time sex between two people once again.
Keep it fun, playful, and surprise each other with innovative and flirtatious conversations to feel the sexual charm. It builds the situation and takes you to a climax. Let her knock at the door pretending to be a girl in distress, needing shelter for the night. Be the perfect host welcoming the attractive stranger, getting romantic with her, impressing her with flirtatious talks. It heightens the sexual tension till you both cannot keep your hands off each other.
7. Use Sex Toys
Sex toys are fantastic to spice up your sex life, especially if you haven’t used them before. There are several exciting sex toys available for people with all sorts of fantasies. But, there is a misconception that sex toys are only for single people or for masturbation. These can be of immense help while you have sex with your partner too. Use them for foreplay or teasing your partner to make things kinky and exciting. Shop for toys together, asking each other about what they would like to have or do with them. Such naughty conversations can set the sparks flying again. You may also gift your partner something provocative like a vibrator, sleeves, penis rings, delaying sprays, or other sex toys as a naughty surprise to turn on the excitement.
8. Get Into The Bathroom
Undressing and getting into the shower together can often make things steamy and spicy. Sexual satisfaction sometimes comes from doing all that you see people doing in the movies. Have a steamy bath together under the shower, exploring each other’s bodies like never before. You could try massaging each other or helping your partner undress in the bathroom. Sometimes, just sitting and watching your partner bathe and get sexy could be a major turn-on for both. You may also set up the bathtub with a bubble bath, aromatic candles and step in together for a long and happy bath together. There are loads of things you might be missing out. Who knows, you may have the best sex of your life right in that bathtub or just in your bathrobe!
9. Try Places Other Than The Home
Sometimes, things may seem boring after a time because of the setting. The same house, the same bed, and the bedroom can tire you both after a while. It may seem mundane and unexciting if you have no new place to explore. Try places other than the home to see the excitement returning right where it should belong. Your house doesn’t have to be the only place to have sex. Moreover, there are many distractions at home, such as the doorbell, the neighbors, and the kids knocking at the door often.
Try the car’s back seat for some adventure or book a hotel room to get romantic like new couples in love. Take that extra step to bring back the missing element in your relationship and spend some relaxing and thrilling time with each other, devoid of distractions at home. You may also go on a vacation to let your mind truly relax and try to engage in some perfectly romantic time all day without anything nibbling at the back of your mind. It’s often the best way to rekindle the missing sexual charm.
10. Watch Porn Together
This may seem voyeuristic, but often, watching others have sex and get kinky and naughty may work wonders for you. Instead of watching porn secretly and individually, watch them together. Get into bed, dim the lights and watch pornography together to get turned on at the same time. It may be inspiring enough to try things right then under the sheets. Watching pornography together often acts as the best incentive to make things fiery enough between couples and get them on the right track. But, try this only if you both are comfortable enough to watch pornography, and it doesn’t seem to repel.
Conclusion
Human beings are born to explore and look for novelty in their sex lives. All relationships go through rocking times during the initial years but suffer a slow decline later. Thus, before you start getting bored of the regular sex routine, try the tips discussed to renew the excitement. A little effort can take you to the heights of sexual bliss and satisfaction. We know you will take that extra step to reach the pinnacle of sexual ecstasy once again.
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